It’s move-in day at the college dorm, freshman year, with randomly assigned roomies. You arrive early to stake out the best bed. You open the door. Too late, she’s already here. But it gets worse: you notice the decor. The pictures. The bedding . . . spurs and ten-gallon hats?

Cowboy accessories.

OK, you think, I can get reassigned. It’s too late to get the best bed anyway.

Fast forward ten years, you’re in different cities but you and the cowgirl are still BFF. What’s more, she’s the one who gave you the courage to switch majors, putting you on track for your career, and introduced you to your husband

How is this possible? We’re willing to bet that you and she saw each other for who you really were and – here’s the key – supported each other in those terms. It’s not what you or she were on the surface, but your ability to see, appreciate and encourage each other, even if you moved in different social circles. So, for example, even if you couldn’t relate to the whole cowgirl scene, you could connect with and support the athleticism of her sport, because you yourself were a dancer.

Hidden gifts under the radar

In addition to the obvious ways that our BFF comes through for us, so often their support is under the radar. It’s small acts, like patiently listening to our drama at work, or remembering your last conversation and asking about that.

Say thanks – show up for her today

Sounds simple, but if your BFF has made a lasting difference in your life that is probably why your friendship is lasting. We bet it goes both ways. Why not say thanks today, maybe along the lines of, “Do you remember in college when…?” You probably will bring a laugh and a smile to her day, too.

Another lovely way to back up that thanks is to brighten her day with an unexpected gift of luxury and fragrance. Consider a gift set like our Fresh Citrus Twist® Essential Package, with Gelee, Sugar Scrub, and moisturizing Lotion . What a nice way to say thanks for the many unseen gifts from her.